With Valentine’s Day approaching, the stigma that people have to be in relationships arrives with it. According to a study from The Date Report, 85 percent of relationships end in breakups and 50 percent of marriages end in divorce.
Katie Tormas, an early childhood education major at Lorain County Community College, has been broken up with over a text.
“I cried to my mom,” said Torma, “It sucks but you’ll get through it.”
Breaking up with someone over text is viewed as socially unacceptable when compared to breaking up with someone in person.
“Nowadays it’s like social media is how everybody has conversations anyway, so being broken up with over text isn’t that big of a deal to me,” said LCCC journalism student Alexa Tucker.
48 percent of males and 47 percent of females have removed an ex from their phone contacts. Accordingly, 29 percent of of males and 32 percent of females have blocked a previous partner from texting them, per the Pew Research Center.
According to the Pew Research Center, 62 percent of young adults with relationship experience have broken up with someone in person and 47 percent of been broken up with through an in person discussion.
“I would say face-to-face over lunch would be a good way to breakup with someone,” said Tucker.
Just like the variety of ways people break up with each other, coping with a breakup can present itself in diverse ways.
“If I break up with someone I’ll go talk to five or six other girls,” said LCCC engineering major William White, “The whole break up thing is just you trying to get your attention off of them, focus on yourself.”
Clayton Jones, an LCCC exercise science major, suggested not dwelling on the relationship.
“If the relationship lasted less than a month or two, have a short memory. Don’t really sink too long because then it just kind of overwhelms you,” said Jones. “Friends are a good resource to help cope with breakups.”
According to a survey of 1000 people done by online magazine YourTango.com, 71 percent of people say they think about their ex too much.
The U.S. Census Bureau has found that 44 percent of American adults are single.
“Follow your instincts on a first date. If you feel like something’s off there’s probably something off,” said student at LCCC Alexandra Sauer, “Never go to someone’s house alone, at least without someone knowing you’re going there.”
“A lot of people carry their stuff from previous relationships into something new, so now they’ll have preconceived notions,” explained LCCC student Gami Torres, “My biggest advice for any situation whether it’s dating or just meeting new people is to be true to yourself,” he said. “Don’t try to change things until the situation presents itself to change yourself.”
“Do things that make you happy and surround yourself with activities and people that you like,” said Tucker. “Focus on tasks rather than the pain.”